We haven't met yet, but your husband has told me a lot about you:). I'm a stay-at-home, homeschooling mom of three.
It sounds like we have even more in common! My last two babies were also born at home. In fact, today marks three years since my first homebirth.
Maybe it is because of my less-than-conventional parenting choices, but I find myself being asked for mothering advice all the time. I don't really feel that qualified--I make a million mothering mistakes every day, but I find that most mothers don't trust their own God-given abilities. They need someone to tell them, "You're doing a great job. Seriously, you are."
You talk about parenting with intention. I've never heard that phrase before, but it sounds like what we strive for here, too. I don't think it is being a perfect parent that makes you qualified to talk. If that were the case, we'd all have to shut-up! As a mentor of mine once said, sharing the truth is about one beggar telling another beggar where to find bread.
Kevin Miller (48Days.NET Host) said:Who are you to teach/lead parents? Well, mom of 6 kids that you've birthed...the last two at home. Homeschooler, dance teacher, everyone comments on how well behaved and amazing your kids are, they all love on and take care of eachother, you look like a college girl who hasn't had even one kid...you have been made and positioned to teach others...
Teri Miller said:Completely grateful, proud, & blessed to tell that my husband is a business-owner, entrepreneur, free agent - and that I can focus on being a mom. But to share that I dream of (and am passionate about) teaching/leading others in parenting...nope, I'm fearful. Seems kinda pompous or something, and I feel embarrassed - like, "who am I to be an authority on parenting???" And yet - authority or not - I feel so doggone convicted about parenting with intention, and so want to spread that passion to others! In time, in time...
I had a guy...actually a friend who I do appreciate, refer to 'self-employed' people laughingly as 'voluntarily un-employed.' Not too many months later he was cringing when his employer laid off 300 people and he barely made the cut. He got to keep his job where he makes 1/4 what I'll make this year, commutes 45 minutes one way to work everyday, gets his little 2-weeks of vacation, works on someone else's agenda, sits in a cubicle (literally) amongst about 40 others...
Obviously I'm quite prideful of what I do.
One thing that helps with all this, is having a clearly defined offering...your NICHE. Be able to easily state what you do, and point folks to a website that showcases your business and has testimonies.
Good question Kevin, and her's my feedback. When I'm with a group, I use to feel not ready to spill it out until I had everything together. This comes from tough lessons learned in the past when I did fail a business, and appeared to everyone as a failure. That was really odd for a moment there. I had talked it up throughout the whole process, and said yeah I'm going to do this, and yeah I'm going to that.
I tried to elicit the help of friends and family (which turned out to be a bad idea). So people starting looking at me as this successful entrepreneur (with no contracts signed), and then Wham!
So since then I've been very careful about letting the cat of the bag to early. But when is the right time?
I'm starting to think its when I have everything together and I'm ready to promote I'll first start singing to the target market, and then move to the social groups for some leverage. And then friends, and finally the extended family.
I can't keep secrets from my immediate family, it just doesn't work. I don't think I have a very good poker face!
But outside of that, I feel the people who are going to be the most resistant to my endeavors are the people that love me most. So I tell them last. Does that make sense, or sound backwards?